Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes about these traditions and hopes that by starting these debates, a new face of Islam is revealed. A new Islam with love, compassion and forgiveness for ALL irrespective of their gender, race and colour.


  1. Cynthia
    February 12, 2018 @ 3:29 am

    I read your blog this morning and I’ve been struggling to surrender to my experience in the moment because I have so many prohibitions on how I’m suppose to not show my pain for the comfort of others starting as a little one having to keep ‘the secret’ for the family’s dignity/denial.

    • Ruby Usman
      February 12, 2018 @ 7:24 pm

      I can totally relate Cynthia. One way that I use to surrender to pain is to start getting curious about where it shows up in the body. Is the pain in my stomach? does my chest feel constrained? are my shoulders forward? how’s my posture… Once you can connect with the sensation, it gets easier to surrender to the pain. Next week, I am going to be writing about “sitting with discomfort” – stay tuned and many hugs to you