Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes about these traditions and hopes that by starting these debates, a new face of Islam is revealed. A new Islam with love, compassion and forgiveness for ALL irrespective of their gender, race and colour.


  1. Dr John A. King
    August 20, 2017 @ 10:26 pm

    You would find the results of a resent survey I did with abuse victims interesting. It was entitled Sex and the Sexual Abuse survivor. About 25% of people spoke of a desire for BDSM or control/controlling scenes as part of their sex life.

    In recent research it has been found that BDSM is a useful tool for emotional and sexual healing.

    • Ruby Usman
      August 22, 2017 @ 9:27 pm

      That’s amazing to hear. It has been my experience as well that conscious BDSM provides sexual healing in very profound ways.
      What’s the name of your study? Do you have a link?