Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes about these traditions and hopes that by starting these debates, a new face of Islam is revealed. A new Islam with love, compassion and forgiveness for ALL irrespective of their gender, race and colour.


  1. Nancy
    April 20, 2017 @ 10:17 am

    Dear Ruby, I have a male friend who was sexually abused by a pastor/minister when he was a teenager. He never told any I except a counselor/therapist. He never told his decease wife. Of 35 yrs Either
    We both have this in common he did tell me. I’m thinking maybe he feels confused about his sexuality I’m not quite sure. I truley do, care & love this man too. I’m trying to help him & encourage him to go back into counseling. Or maybe do couple counseling. Said he would think about it.
    I know about the shame, the guilt, the numbing. The fear anxiety distancing yourself. Pulling away too
    I was also abused by a teenager & molested by my grandfather.

    • Ruby Usman
      April 20, 2017 @ 1:09 pm

      Abuse changes everything but I also think it makes us more compassionate and gives us more richness once we are able to see beyond our pain…
      Talking about it is hard but it’s so worthwhile…