Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes about these traditions and hopes that by starting these debates, a new face of Islam is revealed. A new Islam with love, compassion and forgiveness for ALL irrespective of their gender, race and colour.

4 Comments

  1. Shagufta
    December 11, 2016 @ 3:19 am

    I agree with one thing abusers need help and I believe they need help big time.. most of the time we don’t look inside and question our acts… and mostly abusers have their own kids and which I happen to know few abusers… I think people who are not professional abusers need help… if they come to know that how their abusing effected some kid’s life and damaged their personality it may be a eye opener for them..

    on the other hand there are some professional abusers who like to hurt people and that amuse them.. they do need help but I believe there should be some kind of punishment and consequences for them.

    Bad part of this act we come to know when its very late some time abuser is not even alive.. and its very hard for people to talk about it .. they open their mouth when they know it doesn’t matter any more.. they passed that phase of life and they kind of accept the damage and learn to carry it for rest of their life .

  2. Ruby Usman
    December 12, 2016 @ 7:39 am

    You are so right Shagufta. I think abusers as well as abused are afraid too but I believe that sharing makes the pain ok. Coz we can’t do it alone
    Punishment definitely has its place. but the bigger picture is so much more important

  3. Helena
    December 13, 2016 @ 1:45 pm

    That is so compassionate of you to look at the abusers this way! I admire you! <3

    • Ruby Usman
      December 13, 2016 @ 2:36 pm

      Thank you Helena. But I really believe that we can’t solve the problem unless we understand why this happens xx