Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes about these traditions and hopes that by starting these debates, a new face of Islam is revealed. A new Islam with love, compassion and forgiveness for ALL irrespective of their gender, race and colour.


  1. Nina
    March 3, 2018 @ 2:16 pm

    Yes, this is a beautiful encounter, full of healthy boundaries, respect, open and honest communication, truth telling, Same As rather than one up and/or one down, presence, and discoveries in the moment made possible by letting go of ‘goal oriented’ sex. I am so glad you describe love making as a day long affair including a walk in the forest. If more married couples would practice and explore these processes, they would Never be bored in the bedroom again. Making “sex” a separate act of performance that is all about techniques and positions geared toward the over focused on goal of orgasm robs us of the delicious mystery of what our bodies might want in this moment, of what we are feeling, sensing, and experiencing and thus making every encounter a NEW discovery and experience. Beautiful Example Ruby!

    • Ruby Usman
      March 3, 2018 @ 2:31 pm

      Thank you Nina. That’s very encouraging to hear from someone so knowledgeable as you… We must be doing something right 😉