I have spent decades working, understanding and unshaming the trauma so I could undo its impact on my life. This section describes the various healing techniques that I have come across with or tried and how that impacted my life and my relationships.
When we operate from our wounds; when we believe that we are not worthy; when we believe that we can’t trust anyone else; and, when we shut down so much that it’s hard for us to connect with our own feelings, what impact do we have on the ones we love?
When the perpetrator denies, they show their UNWILLINGNESS to confront themselves. They show their disconnection with themselves and with others and their denial means that they would continue to hurt others…
In my mind, I like the idea of the fairytale. I want all my problems to end; to disappear. Is that really possible?
Transformed from utter anxiety and fear through to the smile of relief – sounds impossible, doesn’t it? But I have watched it happen so many times that I know that it is possible… Here is how
There is only one way to change our beliefs that don’t work for us… Start observing and collecting alternative experiences…
Over the period of time, your beliefs will change and you may not even notice…
Every human is different and their willingness and their capacity for change can make a huge difference for the whole society. Same applies for Perpetrators and Survivours…
Perpetrators are perpetrators and survivors are survivors – Are things this simple? do these labels limit our understanding of the issues at hand…
When we hide our trauma/pain from others, we become inauthentic. From this place, when we try to connect with others and want them to support us, we continue to feel misunderstood and unsupported.
What can be stronger than the all mighty and all paralyzing fear? what can help us move forward when our flashbacks and nightmares keep us stuck in pain?
Aren’t our sex organs a kind of “muscle”? So why wouldn’t a muscle therapy work on our sex organs as well? Exercise for strength and massage for healing.
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