#theunshamingproject
Is for women who believe that they are inferior and don’t deserve love and respect…
… and wonder why they feel so shamed?
Is for women who abandon their own sexuality…
… and wonder what they did to deserve this?
Is for women who continue accepting abuse in the name of honour
… and hope that Allah will reward them in the afterlife
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Why do I Care?
I care because I want our suffering to end…
It took me years to become aware of the shame that I felt in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan.
I suffered and I saw so many others suffer too: my aunties being beaten by their husbands; my girlfriends being abused, starved and beaten at the hand of their husbands and in-laws.
And society continued to ask women to accept this abuse.
They said “this is how an honourable woman must behave”
They said “you will get a reward in the afterlife”
I say that this is not what Allah would have wanted for us. I believe that Allah has created as magnificent women and we must embrace ourselves if we were to rise above this abuse.
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You Should Just Get Over It…
How many time we have heard “Get Over It”? No wonder we struggle to deal with “hard to deal with” feelings…
Do you Collect Unfamiliar Experiences?
There is only one way to change our beliefs that don’t work for us… Start observing and collecting alternative experiences…
Over the period of time, your beliefs will change and you may not even notice…
Guest Blog by Jessica Pritchett – O’ Perpetrator
What if you are given a moment to say whatever you wanted to your perpetrator? What if you pour your heart out and let them know how you feel?
Where is the line with the Perpetrators? Where is the line with the Abuse?
Every human is different and their willingness and their capacity for change can make a huge difference for the whole society. Same applies for Perpetrators and Survivours…
Are we all Perpetrators and are we all Survivours?
Perpetrators are perpetrators and survivors are survivors – Are things this simple? do these labels limit our understanding of the issues at hand…
Owning my Trauma, Owning my Needs…
When we hide our trauma/pain from others, we become inauthentic. From this place, when we try to connect with others and want them to support us, we continue to feel misunderstood and unsupported.
If you can sit with discomfort, you can do anything…
Life would be so easy if we were happy all the time, wouldn’t? and It’s so tempting to avoid pain because it creates the fallacy of being happy… and we let ourselves go awry with this illusion
Do you REALLY want to heal? May the Force be with you…
What can be stronger than the all mighty and all paralyzing fear? what can help us move forward when our flashbacks and nightmares keep us stuck in pain?
Celebrating First Anniversary
It has been a year since Healing Wounds Together was launched. This blog is an acknowledgement to myself for all the hard work and to you – my reader coz without you, all of this is worthless…
#csa #childabuse #trauma #healing #sexuality #rubyusman
From “Utter Anxiety and Fear” to “The Smile of Relief”
Transformed from utter anxiety and fear through to the smile of relief – sounds impossible, doesn’t it? But I have watched it happen so many times that I know that it is possible… Here is how